In January of 2018, I came across Richard Cooper from Entrepreneurs in Cars. This guy was fascinating. He kept talking about the “Rational Male” and other things, so I downloaded the audiobook.
Holy shit. What was this?
I couldn’t put the headphones down.
One week in–I’m still listening to the book.
Two weeks in–I dumped my girlfriend.
Three weeks in–I downloaded another book by Rollo Tomassi called Preventive Medicine.
One Month in– I buy two physical copies of The Rational Male, one for myself, the other for my dad. I tell him to check out Richard Cooper
This information changed me, and it would soon change my dad, too.
Looking In The Rear-View Mirror
After checking out Richard Cooper, my dad (twice divorced and cheated on both times) sends me this message.
Red pill awareness makes you immediately recognize all the dumb shit you pulled in the past. My dad’s reaction was just like mine- “Oh my.”
My previous beta behavior was embarrassing: the supplication to girlfriends, the lack of frame control. I put myself through hell by dating the wrong women. I played beta provider. The list goes on and on and on.
Looking back in the rear-view and understanding why things played out the way they did is a punch in the face. Once the sting wears off, it’s replaced with gratitude. You made it through, thankfully, and now you “see.”
How Becoming Red Pill Aware Changed The Way I See.
Why do my eyes hurt?
You’ve never used them before.
The Rational Male made me reflect on what it means to be a man, my past, and how I can become the best version of myself.
I view the world very differently now. Here are some of the ways it’s changed the way I see.
It Changed How I View My Friends
Red Pill awareness changed the way I view my friends. Close, long-term friends became anchors. I reluctantly distanced myself from them.
The conversations would go like this:
Long-term friend: “Yo man, you should get married and have kids, too.” “Is the girl you’re with ‘the one’?”
Me: “Ah, yea. I’m really just interested in becoming the best version of myself right now. I’m not in a rush for all that.”
Long-term friend: “You don’t want to wait too long. You’re not exactly as young as you used to be.”
I had changed, and my friends were unwilling to accept it. Friends don’t want to see you change as much as they want you to become who they think you should be. My friends wanted me to be like them–married with children.
I started to see my friendships as one big crab-bucket.
It Helped Me Understand My Broken Family
This might sound a bit heavy, but here goes… My parents split when I was eight years old. However, I could never really come to terms with understanding the actions of my mother.
My mother cheated on my father multiple times. I’ve asked her why on several different occasions, and it’s always a rationalization of some kind. Looking at it now, I see the role that hypergamy played, and how the hamster wheel spins and spins.
Reading about concepts like hypergamy become much more real when you see it in your own family. It helped me realize the truth of what happened, and it’s empowering.
I know how to be the man my father wasn’t.
It Changed The Way I View My Mission
Understanding how women and men experience love differently hit me hard.
Women are sex-objects; Men, success objects.
I’ve always known, intuitively, that getting into a relationship without having your mission in place is an act of self-betrayal.
Reading the Rational Male took my understanding of what mission was about to a whole nother level.
Women should only ever be a compliment to a man’s life, never the focus of it. – Rollo Tomassi
The burden of performance is always at play.
Never again will I will be without a mission.
I’m married to the mission, now and forever.
Men With A Capital M
Red pill awareness flips the script and puts you back into the driver seat of your own life. It unleashes the person you are and have always been.
I stand a bit taller now. Positive masculinity is the order of the day. I’m too inspired to be bored, and too infatuated with my mission to be lonely.
I see the world differently. And for that, I’m grateful.
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