The further into my thirties I get, the more gray strands I find invading my jet-black hair.
They make something called “Just For Men Gel” that gets rid of these intrusive grays. But I find the whole idea to be a complete abomination.
I welcome this uninvited incursion. I hope it takes over and colonizes my scalp as quickly as possible.
Women dig the whole “gray fox” thing and I want to join the club.
If anything, Just For Men Gel should be a formula that makes you go prematurely gray.
Culturally though, people are afraid of aging and will do just about anything to hang on to their youth.
Just look at those fifty and sixty something-year-olds with their faces pinned back to their ears, smiling out of their teeth as if to say, “See, I’m still young!”
Aging sucks, but it also provides us with valuable experience if we choose to embrace it.
15 Things I’d Tell My Twenty-Year-Old Self
If I had a time machine, say, something like the Delorean from Back To The Future, I would immediately plop in and hit eighty-eight miles an hour.
I’d hunt down my college-aged form, kick the beer out of his hand, and, like Moses coming down from the mountain, present him with a series of commandments to save him from his wicked ways.
They’d read something like this:
1. Stop Wasting Your Weekends Drinking
Now is the greatest time in your life to create something. Instead of wasting it getting hammered, go build a business. While everyone else is partying, you’ll be laying the foundation for future success.
2. Don’t Do Things You Hate
Find what you love and let it kill you.
Help people. Create value.
If you don’t like what you are doing, change it.
Every time you do something that makes you miserable, you do yourself and others a disservice.
3. Your Parents And Family Are Messed Up, But That’s Ok.
Our parents bring us into this world, they socialize us. But they’re not God. They have their own battles and idiosyncrasies. Also, you don’t get to pick them, it’s simply a matter of chance.
Your parents and other members of your family are probably just as messed up as you are, maybe even more so. Love them where you can.
If you can’t establish a working relationship with them, that’s okay, too.
Focus your energy on being the best version of yourself that you can be, that’s how you honor them.
4.Question Everything. And I Mean Everything.
Do you really need to go to college? Do you really need to work in a cubicle from 9-5? Why are you taking out all those loans?
What do you really want to do? Whose script are you following?
How do you know God exists? How do you know that one political party is right and the other is wrong?
Stop believing the propaganda your parents and society forced down your throat.
Think for yourself. Question everything and find your own answers. Study opposing ideas.
5.Most Jobs Suck. Don’t Let Them Define You
Most jobs exhibit the same problems: arbitrary hierarchies, politicking, being forced to work with people you hate etc.
A job won’t save you. In fact, a job might even kill you.
There is no safety in a job. There’s a good chance your boss hates you, and those people called “co-workers,” yeah, they’re not real friends.
Having a job for financial reasons is fine, but always remember that you are working to build your brand and enrich people’s lives through your work. A job can be a vehicle for that, but never let it be the driver.
We’re all consultants now.
6.Never Stop Hustling. Always Have A Healthy Sense Of Paranoia
The floor is crumbling beneath you. Always have an escape plan. Never stop hustling.
Have money in the bank or a way of supporting yourself when the shit hits the fan because it will.
Always make sure you have multiple streams of income and a “plan b.”
7.Take Responsibility For Everything In Your Life. Everything
It’s not your parent’s fault your broke, it’s yours.
Stop looking to everyone else and own your shit.
The good and the bad, it’s all your fault.
8.Pick Your Woman Wisely
The right woman will make you a better man; the wrong woman will make you less of a man. Choose the right woman carefully. Does she share your values?
Find a woman who shares your values and beliefs.
9.Know Your Values and Never Betray Them. You’ll Feel Shitty If You Do
Know what your personal values are and never betray them. When you break your own values, you betray yourself.
Live by a code of values, ones that you choose, and filter your choices and actions through them.
10.Give More Than You Take. Be Kind.
Most people struggle whether you realize it or not. If a friend needs money, give it to them. But don’t expect to get it back.
The world is an abundant place with more than enough to go around.
Adopt an abundance mindset.
11.Find Things You’re Scared To Do, Then Do Them
Always chase and embrace your fears. When we lean into them we grow; when why shy away from them, we shrink in character.
Always challenge yourself. Find the scary things and do them.
12.Realize It’s Going To Be Okay
Hard times will come and they will go.
Be a warrior.
The storm will pass and you’ll be a better person because of it. Everyone you know has problems and issues you don’t even know about. We all struggle.
Believe in yourself. It’s going to be okay.
13.Embrace Your Death
Most people act and live like they’re going to live forever.
You’re gonna die; live accordingly.
Time is your greatest resource, don’t waste it.
14.Leave Your Hometown And Never Look Back
Strangely enough, most people don’t venture far from their families or hometown. That’s a mistake. Go on an adventure. Explore new cities where you don’t know anyone.
Go on a hero’s journey, embrace the unknown.
15.Politics Is Poison. True Freedom Comes From Living A Free Life
Don’t bother with politics, it’s a waste of time. You can’t control what the government does, but you can control yourself. There is nothing virtuous about trying to control other people’s lives.
Be the change that you wish to see in the world. – Mahatma Ghandi
Want to change the world? Start by changing yourself.
Look To The Past, But Never Live In It
Life is happening right now. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow doesn’t exist.
Looking back to where we’ve been can help us understand ourselves and make better decisions.
But living in the past is a mistake.
We can try and hold on to our past, pull the face back in an attempt to freeze time, but it’s the wrinkles that matter.
I don’t ever want to be a twenty again, but I’m thankful for the life lessons it gave me. And after writing down the lessons I’ve learned, I don’t think I’d get in that Delorean.
I’ll hang on to the wrinkles and take my own advice; I’ll age gracefully.
Writing this all down is time travel in its own way.
If you’re in your twenties, I hope this helps you.
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